Ndiyakuhalalisela ngomhla wokuzalwa kwi-Familiar okanye eyaziwayo

Ngokuza kweeholide, wonke ummi ubhekene nombuzo: oko kukunika, ngamaphi amagama athethayo, ukuba ungayityina ikhadi leposi? Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi xa kuyimfuneko ukulungiselela ukuvuyisana ngomhla wokuzalwa komhlobo.

Nanku ukubaluleka okukhulu kukuba i-close acquaintance. Emva koko, ukuba umntu owaziwayo "inkokhelo", xa uzuko nje ngumqeshwa okanye umhlobo wabahlobo, akucaci ukuba yintoni enokwenzeka ukuba unqwenele ukuba angakhubeki okanye angene ngengozi. Ngako oko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uqale wenze imibuzo ethile malunga nendlela yokuphila yomntu oya kufuna ukuvuyiswa.

Zonke izibingelelo zinomsebenzi onyanzelekileyo. Into ebhetele kwimeko yesazi esincinci kukuzikhawulela kwikharkhadi eqhelekileyo eneemibongo ezibhalwe kuyo - njengokuba ngoku ezininzi zininzi zithengiswa kwiivenkile. Ukuncoma ngokufanayo ngomhla wokuzalwa komhlobo, onomfowuningi ongekho "emlenzeni omfutshane", afanelekile.

Kodwa ukuba ummeli wesini esilungileyo - ummelwane oye wachitha ubuntwaneni, okanye ilungu leqela lezemfuno, okanye umqeshwa ophuze ngaphezu kwetoni enye yeeyi kwaye adle, njengoko bathi, "ipiliti yetyuwa", kunye nokutya, Amadoda, omnye nomnye kunye namadoda abo, akunakwenzeka ukuba iposikhadi encinci iya kunika intombazana okanye intombazana efanelekileyo.

Mhlawumbi, xa ulungiselela umbulelo wokuzalwa ngomhlobo onomhlobo obusondeleyo naye, ngaba umntu kufuneka athathwe ngokunyanisekileyo aze ambhalele into ethile, ngaloo ndlela agxininise ukungakhathaleli? Umzekelo, unina onothando unqwenela ukuba "afunde amabali amaninzi kangangokuba amabali abazukulu bakhe abathandekayo anele ngokwaneleyo ukuguga kwabo!" Kwaye kuya kuvuyisa kakhulu ukuba "i-cat-cat" okanye "inja-inja" xa unqwenela iminyaka yakhe enomdla kunye nemincili imfutshane nabahlobo bakhe abathandekayo abane.

Ndiyakuvuyisela ngomhla wokuzalwa komhlobo othanda izibongo okanye ukubhala inveli kufuneka afake iinqwenela zokufumana inkwenkwezi evuyayo kumfanekiso wommemezeli omhle oza kupapasha imisebenzi yakhe kwizigidigidi zeemoto okanye iibhiliyoni zabafundi abanombulelo. Unokumnqwenela ukuba ubhale ngokukhawuleza inqaku lakhe elithakazelisayo ukuze "agubungele umhlaba wonke ngomsebenzi wakhe".

Ukuvuyisana ngomhlobo wokuzalwa wekwenkwenkwe kunokuthi ube neenqweno ezingaphezulu. Lowo udla ngokuthetha ngokuvuyisa ukuba wachitha usuku elala embhedeni phambi kweTV, unokuba unqwenela iminyaka emininzi umhlobo wakhe onyawo-inyawo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo abanqweneli njengamabinzana angabonakaliyo, kodwa bhetele baqonda ukuhleka kwezinto kunye nokuba ngandlela-thile. Ngokukodwa ukuba le ngxaki iyinto enhle, nwabe "podnachka".

Ngokuqhelekileyo, izifiso zokukrazula ziphantse zifezekise imiphumo emihle. Ngokomzekelo, xa benqwenela "imoto yeebhakede ezinqambileyo" okanye "isikhwama sempilo, iingxowa ezimbini zentlalo kunye nezikhwama ezintathu zokuzonwabisa." Yaye ngokuqinisekileyo akukho mntu uya kufisa isifiso sesigqoko sengqondo, ikharityhulam kunye net talent ... Emva koko, ngokubongela iziphakamiso zokuba umntu ohloniphekileyo unalo okanye omnye, okanye wesithathu.

Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukunyamekela, ukuba isigqibo senziwa "ukuhleka" into encancisayo. Ngokwemvelo, amantombazana athathaka kakhulu kwaye anengqiqo kunabantu abaselula. Kwaye, ukugqiba ukuza kunye nezifiso zakho, kufuneka ulinganise yonke into kakuhle.

Ukuvuyisana ngomhla wokuzalwa kwentombazana eyaziwayo kufuneka imgxininise ukungaqhelekanga kwayo ngendlela efanelekileyo: ubuhle obungenakuqhathaniswa kunye nomncobo, ukubukeka okukhangayo kunye nengqondo ebukhali, ukukwazi ukudibanisa okanye ukuthunga, ukulungiselela okanye ukufunda izibongo. Iimfuno zifanele zihambelane nokubulisa: "Ndiyathanda ukuba ulunge ngakumbi ubuhle bakho," "Ndiyathanda ukuba abantu abathandekayo baxabise yonke iminithi abayichitha ecaleni kwenu, kuba akukho mntu umntu onjalo kwihlabathi" kunye nezinto ezinjalo.

Kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuncoma umthandayo ngaphandle kokulibala, ngexesha nje. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba ufuna ukubiza usuku lokuzalwa okanye intombazana yokuzalwa kungekhona ukukhanya okanye ukuntwela kokusa, ngakumbi ukuba usuku lokuzalwa luwela ngosuku okanye uyazi kwangaphambili ukuba lo mntu uthanda ukulala ixesha elide, kwaye kusasa uhamba njengomsindo, ukuqokelela Umsebenzi. Kungcono ukuhlehlisa oku oku mnandi thina bobabini.