Indlela yokusinda ukufa ngumntu omthandayo

Ngamnye kuthi kungekudala emva koko, uhamba nge intlungu ezinxulumene kunye nokulahlekelwa umntu osenyongweni ababathandayo. Ukuze kwakhona babe ubomi kwaye uzive imali, kufuneka kakhulu ixesha elide kunye nokusebenza nzima phezu ngokwakhe. Indlela yokusinda xa sifelwa ngumntu esimthandayo? Lo mbuzo akanako ukunika impendulo ecacileyo njengoko lenkxwaleko - yinkqubo entsonkothileyo, equka inani ekuthiwa ixesha okwethutyana yaye zibaluleke kakhulu, nto leyo ongathanda ukuthetha ngokweenkcukacha.

kuqala iiyure ezingama-48 umntu ufumana kwabothusa enkulu ilahleko yokuyiphatha-phambili yabo, akavumi ukukholelwa oko kwenzekayo. Kule elilandelayo kukujikeleza intloko ngeveki ndicinga indlela yokuqhuba imingcwabo ukumelana zonke iinkathazo, ukuze ngawo lo mzuzu, uyakhathazeka njengoko ikhutshelwa ngasemva kwaye sibonakaliswa ngengqiqo yokuba ngokomzimba nangokweemvakalelo, kuphelelwa ngamandla. Kweli nqanaba, umbuzo yendlela onokuhlangabezana ngayo ngokufa komntu omthandayo, udla kakhulu kunene.

Ngaphezu koko, ngexesha ukususela kwiiveki ezimbini ukuya ezintlanu, xa umntu ebuyela ebomini bakhe bemihla ngemihla, uqala ukuba neshishini njengesiqhelo, aye emsebenzini, uvakalelwa azive elilolo kunye ulahliwe, abahlobo kunye nosapho. Ingqondo yakhe rhoqo ujikeleza iingcinga malunga ukuze sisinde njani kokufa kukayise, okanye indlela ukusinda ukufa kamama wam, yena akanalo nofifi ngayo ukwenza izinto njengesiqhelo eqhelekileyo ngaphandle kwabo, ngaphandle iincam zabo, iminxeba, nezidlo usapho. Ngeli xesha, iimvakalelo iintlungu, ilahleko, wayesenamandla kunene, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha andahexa nga babecinga umntu akukho nto imbi kangaka, kodwa impilo iyaqhubeka.

Kwisithuba kwiiveki ezi-6 ukuya kwiinyanga ezi-3, ndicinga ukuba ukuphila ngendlela ukufa komntu omthandayo, musa ukuhamba, kuba ngeli nqanaba Ezingxingweni yokothuka, yaye omnye uba wazi ilahleko leyinene. Ngeli xesha, lowo uye waba yokulahlekelwa abahlobo nezalamane, lifumana uluhlu olubanzi ngokufanelekileyo iimvakalelo, maxa wambi ilawulwa kakuhle yena. Nje kweli nqanaba kufika amava ezifana utshintsho kwimo, ukulala ihlwempu, ukuhlaselwa phaku ukukhala, ukutyhafa, ukudinwa, clinical, iingcangcazela kwezihlunu, utshintsho, umsebenzi ngokwesondo, umntu kunzima kakhulu ukuba baqwalasele into ethile, izizathu kubalulekile ephantsi, ezifana nemfihlo rhoqo ukuthetha ngalo mntu ubhubhileyo.

Emva kwexesha, naphi na phakathi kwe-3 no-4 neenyanga, umntu uqala umjikelezo ekuthiwa imihla elungileyo nokubi. Ngeli xesha, anda nochuku, nokwehla ingqiqo kokunyamezela malunga nesiganeko. Ngenxa yokuba urhulumente odandathekileyo kwandisa ifiva ukukhula kunye nezifo ezosulelayo. Kodwa emva kweenyanga ezintandathu, ukuba umntu uba iimvakalelo zokudakumba. Eli xesha ngenene nzima kakhulu, ngenxa izikhumbuzo, zokuzalwa, iiholide, leyo izakunyusa iimvakalelo.

Emva konyaka, xa udlula isikhumbuzo yokuqala zokufa, eli nyathelo inokuba izinto zatshintsha, okanye kubuhlungu, kuxhomekeke neziphumo ebudeni bonyaka. Kweli xesha ukusuka kweenyanga ezili-18 ukuya kwezingama-24 emva kokuba isiganeko kabuhlungu iqala i "nangokuyisasaza". Imvakalelo ilahleko iba abantu enyamezelayo luyaqala ukuba babuyele kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla, kukho ekuthiwa ndlelantle umfi kwinqanaba ngokweemvakalelo.

Nam ndingathanda ukuba ukunika izikhokelo abanye ukuze sisinde njani ukufa ngumntu omthandayo. Okokuqala, kufuneka nazigqibo imeko ze athathe onke iziphumo zokufa. Xa kungekho tyala musa angabambeki zonke iimvakalelo, ndifuna ukulila - ukulila, ukuhleka - ehleka. Thetha nabantu obathandayo ngeemvakalelo zakho ngokuchasene nabo, ngaphantsi ukuba wedwa kunye ngokwakho. Musa ukulibala ukuba uyayikhathalela impilo yakho, ukutya kakuhle, iwise axilongwe. Yiba ukuba umonde wakhe, ndinike wena ixesha kunye nomgudu ukuchacha yokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo. Bandakanya, njengesiqhelo, izinto ezincinane zasekhaya, oko kuya kukunceda kwakhona kuzithemba nangakumbi.