A iingcebiso ezimbalwa malunga nendlela ukubuyisela lo mfo emva ukuvuleka

Yokulahlekelwa nomntu omthandayo - oko kusoloko kukho intlungu nenzondo, nto leyo kunzima kakhulu ukuba ukuzoyisa. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ukuba ubomi yafikelela esiphelweni, kodwa ke eneneni - nguye kuphela amaphepha zayo ezininzi. Kodwa ekubeni awufuni ukuba Tyhila iphepha, kuba akukho bani waziyo ukuba wosondeza elilandelayo. Akukho lula kangaka ukuba ayeke ukuthanda bakulibale umntu enye wasibopha iqhekeza umphefumlo wakho, olinike intliziyo yakho. Ndingathanda ukufumana ngalo, lwaba ngaphambili. Kodwa njani ukwenza loo nto? Indlela ukubuyisela lo mfo emva ngokwahlula?

Okokuqala kufuneka wenze isigqibo, yaye wena kudingeka nje ukuba? Akumangalisi ukuba bathi ezimbini musa kungena emlanjeni, nokuba umbane yodlula kabini kwindawo enye. Kwaye nantsi ithuba anganyathela iharika efanayo wena umkhulu kakhulu. Ukuba ngaba ukulungele ukuba eli nyathelo kwaye ufuna ubuncinane ukuzama ukwenza phezulu kunye nesithandwa sakhe, ngoko kuqala kwiinto zonke, ukuba akuyomfuneko ukuba aphakuzele, yiba nomonde yaye ezolile cinga zonke iinkcukacha yakhe yokuziphatha yakhe. Khumbula, kuba le ndoda ekuthanda? Kwaye unayo? Ngoku cinga, kaninzi kangakanani yaye yintoni ithuba uye ingxabano? Ngubani wenza umqalisi? Inene, kukho ezinye izinto ezincinane ukuba ucaphuka enye kwenye, kodwa akuzange zama ukuxoxa ngoxolo. Ngenxa yesizathu esibalulekileyo. ngokuphindaphindiweyo kungqineke ekwenzeni isiko ngaloo abantu - hayi telepaths, kwaye namacebo bengayiqondi. Kwaye bathanda isisa nothando. Ngoko ke, zawo kunokwenzeka ukuba ukufikelela ngokubuza naye ngento ngqo, kodwa kuhle. Ke kaloku kamsinya nje isicelo senziwa, kuyimfuneko ukuba badumise umntu. Nangona kunjalo, oku nje lokukhumbuza abafundi ukuba yintoni na enokwenziwa ukuqinisekisa ukuba zange zenzeke ngayo ezi, mnandi, iingxwabangxwaba ezincinane zasekhaya. Ngoku, nina nangoku ndawonye akusingisi, kodwa ngokwenene ufuna ukulungisa kuyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ubuza lo mbuzo, "njani ukufumana i guy?", Amacebiso udinga ngxolo kuYosefu. Kakade ke, likhulu ekhulwini isiqinisekiso sokuba uya ufuna ukubuyela nawe, hayi, kodwa zama ukwenza njalo;

1) kufuneka ukuba eneneni akukho endaweni yonke le ntlekele nto yenzekileyo. Zama ukuba ukuhlola imeko ngakumbi kakuhle; ndawo ezimbombeni akufuneki ibekwe iikawusi zimdaka, ngazo ngaphambili ifumaneka kuphela ivumba; akukho ezintabeni iinkonkxa zebhiya neebhotile emhlabeni enkukumeni angakwazi; akukho namnye sokuyivula ukusuka manqaku kwi football; akukho mntu ushiya polkotlety elilolo kwisibandisi, kodwa musa kuhlamba kwipleyiti; akukho mntu eyeka ukuhlangabezana abahlobo usixhome uphume nabo kude kuse; Akukho mntu yayirhona indlebe yakho ayihlangabezani ngomandlalo ... Qhubeka? Ukuba emva oku ndandisakhathazeka umbuzo njani ukubuyela mfo emva ukuhlukana koko funda isiqendu esilandelayo;

2) musa ukulindela ukuba uza kuzama axolelanise ngokwakhe nawe, kodwa akufuneki wamiselwa intlawulo yokuzicamagushela hysterically, eziqwenga yefowuni scribbling SMSes emininzi nemiyalezo omphakathi. Yiba nomonde nekratshi, musa ukuvumela ukukhangela ulusizana kwaye udandathekile "broshenkoy". Ewe, ukuba ndizibambe kunye kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kuyimfuneko. Musa ukufaka phezu ngokwabo kwaye wenze loo nto inye, yintoni na phambi kokuba badibana nendoda yakhe. Emva kokuba ngaphambili waphila ngaphandle kwayo? Kwaye ungakwazi ngoku;

3) Inyathelo elilandelayo umba "indlela ukubuyisela lo mfo?" Ngaba abe umnxeba yefowuni yakho kuye (emva kwexesha elithile cwaka ngokupheleleyo) kunye anikele bahlangane kwintsimi cala. Xa kungekho tyala musa kungqiba okanye nilile. Nje ilizwi ezolileyo ambuze intlanganiso. Ukuba nangoku uyakuthanda, uya uyavumelana;

4) kwintlanganiso babambe enobuntu nangokuzola, hayi atshize phezu kwakhe mintlhaveko anzima kakhulu, enoba intle okanye imbi. Gcina Imboniselo yabucala esezantsi kwaye nje wamazisa ukuba ndimkhumbule: Ndingahlala ngaphandle kwawo, kodwa zazidlala ukubuyela "imihla yangaphambili." Ukuba ngandlel 'bala ukuhlaziya ulwalamano, jikani nje ahambe. Ngaphandle hysterics neenyembezi. Fane kwaye baya kukhala ekhaya ngaphandle amangqina;

5) kunokwenzeka, nasemva kokuba "hayi" zonke ayilahleki: Linda iveki, mhlawumbi eli lixesha lokuba sijongisise ngengqondo ngakumbi le meko kwaye utshintshe ingqondo yakhe. Usebenzise imizamo yakhe guy umva emva yokulahlekelwa babonisa umdla wabo kulo, kunye nokuvuma ukuba bakuthembe. Ukuba uyakuthanda ngenene, kwaye nayo isidenge, akayi kuninika elinye ithuba uze uqiniseke ukuba ukubiza. Ukuba phakathi evekini, maxa amaninzi ezimbini, nto ayikhange ilandelwe na "Unikezelo" - kakuhle, Zithobeni, akuyomfuneko kuwe kwakhona, ukuze ngokukhuselekileyo eli phepha Tyhila iphepha yobomi bakhe iziganeko elandelayo, ezinomdla kakhulu ezele ezakhayo.

Ngethemba, le iingcebiso uNothozamile ngendlela ukubuyisela lo mfo emva ekwahlukaneni uya ukukunceda uqokelele ubomi bakho ngendlela ofuna ukuyenza.