Indlela ukuxolisa lo mfo?

Indlela imiqobo emininzi ngamanye amaxesha oma endleleni yabantu ababini ekwakheni ubuhlobo babo. Indlela imiqobo emininzi, lijonga qho amandla kunye neminye imicimbi. Le ngenene kuphela onothando nzima enye ngalinye liza kuba nako nakhe uluhlu lokulwa kunye isiphelo, kwaye ukwenza uthando lwakhe ekufeni.

Hlakalo, feuds kunye neengxabano ke lophawu ebalulekileyo naluphi na ulwalamano. Ukuba ibingekho ukuba la mathuba mnandi, nto leyo uya kuphuma iimvakalelo? Ubuhlobo udinga ukushukunyiswa-up, kuphela, Kakade ke, hayi ngaphandle kwesizathu, okanye izizathu iyintsomi. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ngexesha xa ingxabano bekhohlisana yesiqhelo esongela ngokuqatsela ibe ihlazo omkhulu nabo bonke imiphumo. Kufuneka ukwazi ukunqanda ukuba uphuhliso olo, okanye mandithi, andazi njani, yaye ixesha elide ukufunda. Umfazi kufuneka ulumke yaye aqonde ukuba "Ngoku uqalisa qhwithela."

Akunamsebenzi vulavula hi umqolo phezu ityhubhu kutyhileka yonke intlama, neendebe iikawusi phantsi kwebhedi phezu izitulo. Ngokwenene ukuthetha malunga nendlela ukucela uxolo ukusuka guy ukuba unetyala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ikratshi, inzondo ngamandla naliphi na igama okanye ibinzana, nokoyika abakhi, ukuze kakubi aphazamise iingcinga, indlela acele ukuxolelwa lo mfo. Khumbula ukuba kufuneka kwenziwe emva kwexesha elithile. Thina wayengathethi xa ubuhlungu umntu wakho kwaye andifuni kuthi zibhekiswa "uxolo." Sithetha xa kuphela emva kwexesha baqonde ukuba embi kakhulu kwaye engalunganga.

Ndakutya ngoku ephosakeleyo, yaye ucinga, ukubuza njani uxolo ukusuka guy, kufuneka ukuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba sikulungele ukuhlangabezana kwaye bethutha zokuqala. Okokuqala, kuza nje kuye bathi banal, kodwa kuyimfuneko ukuba "Uxolo, Ndonakele." Nabani na okhe wacela uxolo, uyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani na, maxa wambi, wenze. Indlela nzima khangela emehlweni athi esi sivakalisi, elinde isigwebo. Ukuba guy opholileyo, mhlawumbi, uya akuxolele, kodwa ukuba ulindele kujingajinga phezu nokulimala nesidima ukhutyekisiwe, kufuneka wenze umgudu ukuze ucele kamnandi ukuxolelwa. Xa kungekho tyala musa Iyanikhubekisa le ngxelo "khala", ukuba nina unithabathile inyathelo lokuqala, kunye mfo wena musa ukuxolela. Yenza iinzame ezimbalwa, yaye ukuba emva yesithathu okanye eyesine iya kuhlala injalo, nika nje ixesha wuyeke - ebekwe ngamazwi ukuxolelwa yonke imihla nalo asibobulumko. Ngoku linyathelo uya kudibana naye.

Cinga ngendlela ukubuza umntu uxolelo yokuqala. Kunokuba isimemo umdlalo, ekonsathini, ukulwa lokugqibela, ukukhwela inqanawe, isikhephe, parachute (ukuba bekumzuzu waphupha of). Uyakwazi bavumelane jeeping yena kunye nomhlobo wakhe, kodwa ukuze azi nganye somhleli. Le umhlobo efanayo okunokutsalela ngayo abantu ezifana-nye nonke, mhlawumbi uya kumema boyfriend lakho cafe, uya kuza, yaye apho etafileni sangokuhlwa elinde nina. Okanye ngaba loo nto ayithethi cafe, njengentente emahlathini, umzekelo, apho iza kulindela kuwe, isidlo esimnandi, iziqhamo, kunye nezinye iimpawu. Enyanisweni, unokucinga ezininzi iindlela original ukucela uxolo lo mfo, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, uyazi into ayifunayo, yintoni akutsalwa, oko akuthandayo akathabatheli up.

Ukuba uxolele lo mfo nazenzela it up, nceda, ugcine izithembiso zakho kunye nokuzinikela. Kungase ukuba bayeke podoh ngeveki ukuya disco kunye nabahlobo bam kwaye wenze loo nto kanye ngenyanga, yena, naye, naye uyala ukuya ngoMgqibelo iihambo ukuya ibhola kunye nokwenza kube kabini ngenyanga. Soloko, ukuba abantu abathanda omnye komnye kwaye obuxabise ngayo obo buhlobo, unako ukufumana kwizibhambathiso ezithile kunye bayavumelana kwisiqingatha sesibini, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba akwazi ukubeka wena zomnye umntu aze aqonde avakalelwa ngayo. Ukuba kufunda ukunyamekela malunga iimvakalelo zomnye umntu, ngoko ungquzulwano kunye ingxabano ekugqibeleni kuba ngaphantsi n ukuqonda kunye nothando kwakhona.