Indlela ukutsala uthando, okanye iimfihlelo ezimbalwa psychology positive

"... Sikhetha, khetha kuthi ..." Amazwi aziqhelileyo ingoma esiqhelekileyo malunga nendlela ihlabathi amaxesha disgarmonichen ngokufuthi izihlwele indlela, siya sizifumana kwi "zodwa" nendlela buhlungu kunye ubulolo buhlungu, yokwazi ukuba " akukho mntu ondithandayo. "

Ejongene nale meko, ndiyacinga, hayi umntu omnye yaye hayi kanye wabuza umba ngokwemixholo efana kwabaninzi - nendlela yokutsala uthando ebomini bakho, kufuneka wenze ngenxa bembonakalo yayo?

Kakade, ngeke ibe lo mbuzo impendulo ecacileyo okanye iresiphi. Kodwa ...

Okokuqala kufuneka uzame ukuqonda - into engalunganga? Okanye akukho bendawo efanelekileyo, ngubani uthanda yaye ngubani na uthando? Okanye kuvela endleleni yobomi, kodwa sisendleleni, emva kwexesha elithile, ukutshintshela kwesinye isikhululo? Okanye mhlawumbi macala nje i "nendingazithandiyo", yaye singqongwe akukho bani sasiza kuni 'bechwayitile "ubuhlobo, ingqalelo nenkxaso? Jongisisa kwabanye, ukuze ezenzeka emhlabeni iziganeko ngocoselelo ukuhlalutya uze uphulaphule, ngoko ukuthetha, kwi "umculo bezigaba." Kwaye kuxhomekeke impendulo, ekuphumeni kwenu koko isigqibo ukuba kunye umdaniso.

Ukuba uyazi wena njengomntu zokuzingca, kunye neemfuno ngokugqithisileyo ubomi kunye nabantu, ukuba jonga kwi ihlabathi phezulu kwaye ucinga ukuba, ukuba asingabo bonke, abaninzi kakhulu - ukutsala uthando uqale ukusebenza nzima phezu wedwa. Uya kufuneka ukuzibonela ngokwam ukuba "Mna" - ngenene incwadi yokugqibela kwi alphabet leyo embindini Earth kwaye kufuneka isantya phantsi iimfuno zabo, ukuba zibe lula, ngobubele yaye kamnandi ngakumbi. Kwaye ngoko ke umbuzo nendlela yokutsala uthando, impendulo oku: umphefumlo wakho "kufuneka asebenze 'imini nobusuku. Emva koko, ubuhlobo bakho, ukunyaniseka kuya kubonwa, abantu baya kusondela kuwe. Khumbula indlela esivuya we shintsha ubuso kwelanga spring, kodwa akabi, kodwa uhlobo, ithenda, ingakumbi emva kokuba raduyuschemu rhabaxa elide ebusika! Okanye ngezandla zozibini ukutsala ubushushu ophilileyo komlilo, njengoko umzimba uphela licinezelwe nxamnye esitovini hot! Kutheni na le nto? Ngokuba yonke into zifudumeleyo, elungileyo, live amtsale, nenzaliseko nokuzola, imvisiswano, uvuyo lokuphila. Oku kukwasebenza ebantwini. Bright, eyakhayo, friendly umdla, kuba ziveza amandla uthando nobubele. Kufutshane emthonjeni, kwaye ubathande!

Kodwa ukutsala njani uthando, ukuba wena akunguye loya, umntu oqhelekileyo, unelishwa nje, ucinga? Emva koko omnye umbuzo - njani wena ozijonga ngayo? Uzithanda wena, intlonipho, yazi yawo yokuvelela, ukuba nentsusa kwento, ukubaluleka? Ukuba akunjalo - apha ke, Ingcambu ingxaki okanye kwelinye icala lwemali. Ukuzingca mathumbu. A self-deprecation yeyona nanceba - kuphela. It is a nalufefe, hayi uthando. Kwaye kulo mzekelo ukutsala uthando kwabanye kufuneka siqale kwimfundo self-uthando, kunye nokuzamkela, ukuxolelwa ubuthathaka bethu, yini na kwi ubuncinane clever okanye ezintle, njengoko kufuneka, kungekhona nje impumelelo kwikhondo lakhe, kungekhona ukuze 'umdla yaye okumangalisayo. Makube njalo. Kodwa - nguwe, yaye omnye ngemvelo wabantu nje ayikho. Amaxesha amaninzi, ndithi kuwe, ndincume esipilini uncumo limnandi kwaye wonwabe, gxininisa zalo eziluncedo, wathi kubo! Funda ukuba uzigqale kakuhle. Ukususela oku kuya oqala ngayo, izimvo zakho, uya nokuba khangela ngakumbi nomtsalane, nentembelo ngakumbi. Uza kufumana ntoni ngaphambili lehla ukusuka ezandleni. Uqala angakanani pulses amandla ezintle ehlabathini, ngaba uyamshawuta njani kwihlabathi liphela - khangela, mna okulungileyo ngam, sithandwa sam, emangalisayo (ukuba ngaba uyindoda - oko kukuthi, kuphela sobudoda). Oku kuya kubonwa ukuba abanye! Uya kunikela ingqalelo, uya kuba nomdla. Awukwazi indiva, kodwa ngokusuka entliziyweni bavelane - ewe, ukuba uqiniseke! Ngenxa yokuba indlela ukutsala uthando xa ukungafihlisikuthetha nokumthemba wena nabanye?

Kwaye enye ingongoma ebalulekileyo. Kufuneka kucace ukuba nomfanekiso ngokucacileyo ukuba yintoni na - ukuba ngundaba-mlonyeni, ukuze zihlonitshwe, omthandayo enye, abantu abaninzi ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, nentsapho yakhe kunye nesiphelo kunye noogxa babo emsebenzini okanye abadlulayo-yi esitratweni. Kuyimfuneko ukuba bazobe oko ekuyileni ezahlukeneyo iipatheni luhlaza kwaye ugxininise ezo mvakalelo ezintle, nto leyo kule meko khona kuni. Kwaye bayeza ezi izivo ngokwabo. Ngoko sithanda ukuthumela umnxeba kwi womhlaba - ukuba asirhawule uthando, thumela nxi kwezithuthi abo bantu nabo siya kuba kakuhle. Ukukholelwa ngokusuka entliziyweni yokuba kunjalo kuyenzeka.

Kwaye ngokwenene eyenzekayo - ngcembe, njengoko iya ukutshintsha isimo sakho yangaphakathi, njengoko ukuzalwa "Mna," njengoko ngakumbi kucace gca into yakho entsha nendlela yokutsala uthando.