Dream Ingcaciso: iphupho apho yangaphambili

Kutheni uphupha yangaphambili? Xa kungekho ixesha ukuhlukana nomntu omthandayo, zonke iingcinga ngento eyenzeka ukulidla amaxesha amaninzi. Kwaye kukho ke, Kakade ke, akukho nto angaphezu, xa iphupha ex-boyfriend. Kufuneka uchaze intsingiselo amaphupha abo amaninzi kubonwa le ntombazana.

Kutheni uphupha yangaphambili? Ukuba intombazana naye ex-umthandi ephupheni ukuhlangabezana kwakhona - bubungqina bokuba iimvakalelo kudala zabanda, inxeba tight, kunye nenzondo shwaka. Lixesha lokuba ukubeka bucala zonke iinkumbulo kwaye ukhangele uthando olutsha.

Kwimeko apho ex-isoka ukuba intombi ephupheni kuvela imifanekiso eyahlukileyo okanye iimeko - ukuba inenekazi abaselula kufuneka sivume ukuba imvakalelo sifudumele entliziyweni, kunye naloo mfana nangoku lwenzeka entliziyweni. Kodwa ukuba bahlaziye ulwalamano ezilahlekileyo - akukho nto yenzekayo. Ngoko ke kungcono ukuba uyilibale ayeke ukuwathuthumbisa ziinkumbulo umphefumlo wakhe.

Ziziphi amaphupho kunokutshiseka lakhe elitsha - imibuzo efana nayo kuvela rhoqo. Le yinto mnandi, ewe. Kodwa ke intwasahlobo tshintsho.

Kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ukuba yintoni iphupha ex kwi Dream Miller. Ukuba kwakhona kukho intlanganiso kunye naye, yaye ke uhlobo oluthile ulwalamano - kunokwenzeka ukuba kungekudala into eza kwenzeka ukuba uya kunxulumana kunye nobudlelwane sele kudlule ngothando. Ndinephupha ngokumanga - apho kungekudala kuza kubakho isiganeko isimanga, kunye neentlobano zesini - ukungavisisani. Ingxabano - utshintsho ebomini bakhe ngendlela elungileyo, ukuvuleka - kubakhawulela abantu abatsha ukuba uza kukuphelisa, ngelishwa, embi. Ndandifuna umlo? Loo nto ithetha ukuba kuza kubakho liqabane imikhwa okwenyaniso lokuba kumnini. Okanye elundini iya kudala neqabane entsha, a ngegqudu kakhulu.

Kutheni kufuneka amaphupha malunga yangaphambili kwi Dream Utoliko Vanga? Ngenxa yokuba kubonakala ezingathanga wanyamalala ngokuphelele nobomi intombazana. Dream abantu ex-abaselula - intombazana ondla ithemba ukubuyela kuyo. Ukuba nangoku kunye ephupheni - intliziyo ekugqibeleni ukuba ahambe.

incwadi iphupha Freud likaThixo lithi umfazi ukuba ngumbumbi ephupheni, oko Njengengabula-zigcawu ngokuphathelele oko kuza kwenzeka kungekudala ukuxabana yintandane langoku.

Kuyenzeka ukuba iphupho abone umtshato apho umtshakazi isebenza ex yakhe, yaye nendima lomtshakazi - enye intombazana. Oku kuthetha ukuba le ntombi ukuba umntu ukuxolela naliphi na ityala. Ukuba eneneni yangaphambili utshata naye - esiza engxakini enkulu ukuba uthatha uthando zakhe - kungekudala nje ukuba babe isimanga emnandi. Xa uyafa ephupheni - mhlawumbi intombazana obona kungekudala iza kuba utshatile kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuzala indlalifa.

Kuyenzeka ukuba umfazi amaphupho ngumyeni bangaphambili. Ukuba bahlangane. Oku kugqalwa isandulela kunokwenzeka inyathelo engaphucukanga kwi inxalenye manenekazi, nto leyo iza kuqulatha imiphumo ebuhlungu. Umtshato okanye intombazana otshatileyo obona phupho ungalindela ezinika ngenkani ngesiquphe, akukho kobuxhakaxhaka emnandi ezinxulumene ipropati kwaye abanye imicimbi yayo.

Ukuba iphupha apho yena uyazifohloza phezulu kwakhe kwangaphambili (ebomini), umfana, ukuba unaloo nto kungekudala kuba sisiganeko eziza kutshintsha ubomi bakhe ngenxa ngcono.