Ungaze simhleke umntwana wakho ngenxa yale!

Akukho mathandabuzo ukuba banter yokudlala abantwana banokuba nempembelelo entle. Noko ke, ngaphambi kokuba uthathe umntwana lokuza, engqondweni umgca isusa ngaphaya apho akuyi kuyiwela phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko. Siza kukuxelela malunga nemixholo abangafuniyo ukuthetha ngayo amaqhalo nezaci, kungenjalo kwiimvuthuluka zakho enikezelwa ukudakumba, umsindo, ixhala, phantsi ukuzithemba, kwaye kwi "emnweni" ngendlela - ukudandatheka.

yintlonti playful phezu imbonakalo

Uphando lubonisa ukuba bantering playful phakathi kwabazali kunye nabantwana kunokuba yindlela entle kakhulu ukwakha ubuhlobo bathembane. Noko ke, abazali kufuneka baqonde ukuba ngempazamo limele itakane ngawakho amazwi akho. Nikelani ingqalelo indlela iimvuthuluka. Ukuba ngoncumo iphumile ebusweni bakhe, amehlo akhe ijoliswe kwabo - lo ngumqondiso wokuqala mazwi buhlungu ababuleweyo tomboy abaselula. Umntwana kugxekwa kwaye ushiye kungekudala njengoko kuchaphazela izifundo abangafuniyo: ibala layo, amabala, amaqhakuva, iindlebe phuhlu kunye naziphi na ezinye iimpawu imbonakalo.

Iinjongo zemfundo uyakwazi Sukumqhula abantwana ngembeko ukungcolisa kwelo gumbi, kwaye kulula zitshintshiwe (umzekelo, ukuma kakuhle okanye ukuziphatha abangenazigqibo). Khumbula ukuba jabs abuhlungu kufuneka ukukhumbuza ndlela-mbini esitratweni, Mabadake ngokunjalo iziqhulo kid idilesi yakhe. Ulibele ukuhlamba izitya, kwaye itakane wayebize wena a slut? Gxininisa ucoceko kunye nabo enkosi ukuze ahlolwe. Kodwa ukuba awuyithandi sokumakishwa kwakhona, bathi ngokuphandle ukuba buhlungu iimvakalelo zakho. Buza kuye ezininzi zokuthetha amazwi ahlabayo kangaka.

iziphumo zemidlalo

Abantwana bayakuthanda ukudlala imidlalo, kuba intshukumo kubenza bonwabe. Kwelinye icala, abantwana nimkhuphele esebenzayo kwimibutho okanye kumacandelo nje umsebenzi kubonakala kubo "hayi kumnandi." Yintoni enye kwenza umntwana akhule abandayo lo mdlalo? Kakade ke, ulawulo lwabazali, kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kuqeqesho. Yizani eklasini, ubonisa ukuba bengandithembi umqeqeshi. USam itakane liya kuziva uxinzelelo okwandileyo, uxanduva kunye nokoyika yokwenza impazamo. Ukubagxeka ngexesha loqeqesho kunye nokhuphiswano i inkalo yendalo ngaphakathi kwiqela. Noko ke, ukuba ubungozi uyakugculela avela kubazali, oko yenye into. Musa ukulindela ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuba yintshatsheli-Olimpiki, Zizukise igama lakho. Musa uyibeke balindele eziphakamileyo kakhulu, ekholelwa ukuba izimvo zakho abuhlungu kuya kukhuthaza unenzondelelo enkulu. Enyanisweni, indawo yokugqibela elugqatsweni, apho inkoliso abantwana unyaka nangaphezulu - ukuba akukho sizathu ukuba ahlekise yobuthathaka umntwana. Ngaloo ndlela ke ukhuthaze umntwana ukuba ukuyeka emidlalo kwaye zehlisa bakhe nokuzixabisa.

Ukungaphumeleli isifundo

Musa ukucinga ukuba baqhube kakubi esikolweni kunokubangela unxunguphalo kuphela. umfundi Little kwakhona novakalelo malunga ukungaphumeleli zabo. Uye ubunzima aze abone noontanga bakhe isifundo inikezela lula kakhulu. Ukubagxeka kwinkqubo yokufunda zingasetyenziswa kuphela xa omnye: Ukuba itakane balibala ukuba bahlale phantsi ukuze wasekhaya. Kodwa kid kuhleka intelligence - a ndlela aluvumelekanga. Kwakhona khumbula ukuba yintlonti kufuneka kubekho izinto ezihlekisayo. Ukuba iingxelo zakho ayikwazi engamelanga ithathwe njenge 'etyeni, ulahle kuphele. Xa ukhathazekile ngenxa quiz yovavanyo, shiya ozilindele nabo. Ngoku ke akunakwenzeka ukuba ukutshintsha, kunye nonyana okanye intombi yakho iza kuzama kwixesha elilandelayo nzima kuphela xa beziva inkxaso kwicala lakho. Ungaze uthethe ngokunikhathazayo zakho, singasathethi sakuwubuza lo mbuzo-buciko: ". Nabani na ukuba usisidenge kangaka"

ukuthobeka

Abantu baba introverts kunye extroverts ebuntwaneni enzulu. Ngoko ke, ukuba neentloni - yinto ubunjani obuqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo inani elikhulu labantwana ezivaliweyo kunye nenzolo. Musa ukucinga ukuba lo ukungazithembi elizayo ngandlel nzima ubomi daze bakho. Itakane ngokuqinisekileyo ukufumana ubizo yakhe kwimisebenzi cwaka, noxolo, efuna unyamezelo kunye ingqalelo. Xa kungekho tyala musa atyhale ubuhlobo umntwana shy kunye noontanga babo. Nje rhoqo amalungiselelo ngeeholide endlwini, mema abafundi okanye utyelele parks kusonwabisa. Ukuba Ukuqhela wosana uya ungenakuwuxhalabela ukuqhubekeka, yiya ibhunga, ndawonye ngengqondo yesikolo.

Overreliance on izifundo

Oontanga ukubiza bantwana "Nerds." Kodwa umntwana awehlelwa ukusuka ukohluka kwayo, kuba ufumana oluninzi ngoontanga onekhwele. Musa ukuba umkhwa ndimyeke iziphiwo ngokwasengqondweni abantwana, omabini kwimeko ingqondo kuphuhliswa ngaphantsi-, yaye kwimeko yophuhliso yayo ngokugqithiseleyo. Ungaze uthi izinto ezifana: "awuka kuma up ngokwabo awukwazi, kutheni ufuna engqondweni yakho?". Ingakumbi musa uthelekise umntwana wakho kunye noontanga babo, abantwana, usebenzisa epithets kakubi okanye elithukayo. Ukuba ukuzoba ukufana kunye iingqondo ezibalaseleyo ixesha lethu, oku kunefuthe elibi ezingqondweni abantwana. Endaweni yoko, kudluliselwa kowabo umntwana omnye ingcamango yakhe elula: oko yodwa, akukho namnye ayikhangeleki njengendoda.

umzimba

Ngelishwa, ukutyeba - yinto kabuhlungu imihla yethu. Le ngxaki fanele kudidi lwe zonyango kwaye kukho isibetho wokwenene amahlwempu kunye nabakumgangatho ophakathi. Ngumzali, uphando lubonisa ukuba ibala 'inqatha "okanye" ibhinqa inqatha' ebuntwaneni kwandisa amathuba okuba ukwanda ubunzima abangaphezu kwemfuneko mdala. Isimanga, kodwa uyandibhanxa elivisayo, full-eyomeleleyo, iminyaka elishumi phantse lonke kunokubangela isalathisi Bomzimba Nobude lokugqibela.

Kwaye ukuba abanye yintlonti ngoogxa babo ubunokwazi kugwetyelwa, le iziqhulo malunga nokuma yomntwana ezenziwa ngabazali, Awekho logic. Musa ukubuza malunga impilo elivisayo, xa uye ezivenkileni uzame kwi izicathulo ezintsha ijini. Umntwana uyazi ukuba ayinjalo wonke umntu, nokuba umzimba yakhe ukuhlangabezana nemigangatho eyamkelekileyo. Ukongeza, ukuba abantwana wacaphuka amazwi ekhubekisayo (nangona bangenziwa ngaphandle ububi, okanye ngendlela uyadlala), baya kuhamba kudla enye inyanda elithozamisayo, ukubuyisela thile intsalela kweekhemikhali ebuchotsheni.

ukwesaba

Malimoyike izinja, abasemzini okanye izilo ngaphantsi kwesingqengqelo lwakho - oku Kuyaziwa ukuba umntwana. Ukuba unazo zonke ezi loyiko zibonakala ise kwaye ngqiqweni, umntwana wakho uya nobaqonda njengoba iqiniso. izitofu ezihlekisayo aziyi kukunceda soyise ukucalulwa, yaye uya mandundu kuphela meko. Ukusombulula le ngxaki, bancede abantwana babo bazive bekhuselekile.

Ukukhetha iimpahla

abantwana abaninzi babe nemvo isimbo kwasekuqaleni neminyaka emithathu. Ukuba unika abantwana inkululeko yokuzikhethela ngubo, oko kubanceda ukuba bakwazi ukuzithemba. Xa usenza bahlekisa ukhetho kids, ngaloo ndlela ubeke phantsi ubuchule babo ukuveza ubuntu babo. Yiba ukulungele ukuba kunjani, ukufumana yena, ibe ngaxa ethile - ukuxelisa oontanga babo. Gcina umkhondo apho kubonakala abangasekhoyo anzima kakhulu impahla mood womntwana,.

ubutyebi

Abantwana abasoloko ukuqonda umahluko phakathi kwezityebi namahlwempu. Abantu abadala abaninzi anikela ingqalelo amaxabiso eziphathekayo, bane abantwana babo imifuziselo zakutshanje iPhone, iithoyi eninzi okanye izinto umyili. Kulo mzekelo, i osisiyatha ukugculelwa ingumona noontanga babo. Ngapha koko, wena unoxanduva lokuqulunqa lweeyantlukwano eklasini.