Kwezi ndidi oluxandileyo, zinxulunyaniswa yobuntu, umlinganiswa, iimeko zobomi, kuba nzima ukuba asebenze ingcaphephe kunye umshumayeli inyaniso. Ingakumbi kuba ukunyaniseka wonke umntu uyasibona indlela yabo. Ngokuba umntu uza kuzinikela kuqala entsatsheni, yaye ngenxa yakhe aza kukwazi nantoni na. Kuba kwenye - enyanisekile yaye iinkolelo zakhe. Kuba sesithathu - isifungo inkonzo (nokuba emtshatweni, inkolo okanye zikarhulumente) ... Ngoko, xa ungenisa ngokubanzi, ewolo thina - ukuba (ekutolikweni eqhelekileyo) ewolo kuyo nantoni na okanye nabani na. Kodwa indlela ukuphelekwa yokuziphatha kwabantu yoyilo kunye multifactor neenkolelo?
Kunzima ukuba bawele ukuziphatha. Xa sicingela ukuba ukukhohlisa - olukhetho okanye izilangazelelo zabanye, kodwa hayi eyayiza ukunyaniseka, ngaba kunokwenzeka nokulubona eziqhitsini? Amaninzi sijamelene nale miba kobudlelwane. Ngaphezu kwesiqingatha zemitshato kunye nemibutho ziye nazo yaye ziya bejamelene iingxaki ezinjalo. Kuluntu, loo nto ixela ukuba utshintsho - kusisono. Athetha ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuxolela, ukuba ufuna uncamathelise, amawaka ezibhaliweyo ezaphukileyo lamaphepha. Kodwa okona kubalulekileyo zonke olityelweyo kukubalela iimvakalelo. Licebo - yinto zokubonisa into yokuba yonke into engalunganga kwi manyano. Lithethe ityala ngokwakho. Uninzi imitshato womelele ngokwanelisayo oselula, xa isibini sele kodwa ixesha lokuba bafunde omnye komnye. Zikhula, bayaqonda iinkqubo ubomi babo, ukufakela, iinjongo. Yaye ngokuthe ngcembe uqala ukuba ngakumbi ngokucacileyo ukuba, ukuba bonwabe endaweni kunye, kakubi ngabanye ngokwasengqondweni, kwaye maxa wambi nangokwenyama. Ngapha koko, nkqu into yokuba kukho imfuneko yokuba ukufihla ezinye ikhona - yinto uphawu ezothusayo. Lo ngumqondiso ukuba zonke iimfuno kuko womanyano. Ukuba akukho trust kunye ngokuphandle. Ukunikelwa - oko kusoloko intlungu, unxunguphalo, ukophulwa trust. Kodwa xa ndisiva ngento sneaky "yena" okanye njengokuba singanyangekiyo "it" - wamngcatshayo, ukuqhathwa, bamhlisa - I Kufuthi ke nanku umbuzo: Ingaba esinye isiqingatha obeyimfama ngoko ukubona ukuba bonke ayikho kakuhle? Ngapha koko, nakanjani na ukuvela enkundleni apho amadoda amabini kakuhle akukho mntu wesithathu, apho wenze ngokuvumelana. Omnye umntu, kanye kungenzeka oku kwenzeka kuphela xa kukho sibange. Kaninzi iba "iqela lesithathu" akukho ndlela ityala: kwaba kuphela ngunobangela ukuwa, nto leyo esele utsha. Ngoko ke akaxoki kuthi. Licebo - ayiveli eluhlaza. Kunoko, nguye lokugqibela ugwayimbo umbane xa kukho isiphango. Abantu badla ityala yamashwa ngayo abanye. Kodwa khangela imeko ngokuqonda: Ngaba andinalo mna ilungelo lokulindela ukuba umntu ukubheka ngokweenkanuko zabo, iminqweno, umdla kuthi? Yaye kutheni kufuneka sibe sokuzinikela ngenkani?
Makungabikho namnye akavumelani nam. Kodwa mna Ndiqinisekile kakhulu ukuba ukungcatshwa - ububi ebaxiweyo. Siya bavame, ukuze bazive banendawo. Kwaye loo nto lowo ongawuthobeliyo le mithetho ongabhalwanga, ngubani ofuna ukuba ngokwakhe, amabala. kulula kakhulu ukuba conformism. "Ndiyakuthanda enye, kodwa umfazi wakhe ayiyi kumka kuba ... (abantwana, lo kwindlu i pity akukho ngemali okanye ngokuchasene noko, andingi)." Kodwa makhe sicinge ngoko umfazi? kufuneka njani kunzima kuba bubulumko ukwazi ukuba lowo kufuneka ukhuthazo nenkxaso, lungiselela (ukuba konke ekwaziyo kuyo) kuphela phantsi koxinzelelo le ndibano? Yintoni na ngokunyanisekileyo, oko akuthethi enze ngokusuka entliziyweni.
Ekukholelwa ukuba ukungcatshwa yokomoya - ukuba esilingana besini kaPlato. Yeyona iimvakalelo abanamava ngokunxulumene nomntu akunyanzelekanga ukuba ziyatya, ngokuba zihanjiswa, asinakukwazi, asinalungelo. Misa! Ngapha koko, enyanisweni ingxaki ayikho izivamvo. Umntu uzalelwa simahla, yaye nayiphi na yeemeko - akukho ngaphezu ukuzama ukunciphisa nenkampani kulawulwa. Ngoko ke, Ndiqinisekile ukuba utshintsho - ukuba akamthandi kwicala. Oku isenzo sesondo okanye uyabathanda zikaPlato ukuba umntu ngaphandle. Ngokoluvo lwam, a embi kakhulu ngakumbi wona ngokuthi - ubuxoki kunye ewolo trust. Loo nto okubi ngaphezu kwabo bonke, yonke loo nxantathu ayikho inyaniso nje ubukho bayo, kunye nento yokuba umntu ixesha elide ebumnyameni ngesimo lokwenyaniso bemicimbi. Sokungathembeki ukuqonda uze uxolele. Ngaphezu koko, kunokuba fundo elizayo, nto leyo iya kubonisa oko kulahleke kwi Union. Kodwa ngendlela engeyiyo ngabom, inkohliso kuba nzima ukuxolela ngakumbi. Uthando lokwenene ongabunyamezeliyo ubundlobongela kunye nezithintelo. Kwaye impendulo ubuthi ingcambu.