Ubudlelwane Culture: oko kuthetha ukwenza?

Ukuthandana, uthethathethwano kunye yomtshato - emangalisayo, imibhiyozo ezintle, kwanawezayo kuthi, evela kwixesha lakudala. Zonke iintlanga, ukuba kuzo umlinganiswa wakho. Noko ke, kukho into eqhelekileyo.

Tili-tili-intlama

Ngoko ke lowo uthetha - wenza? Xa isibini luvutha ugqiba ukuba ezifaneleke ngokugqibeleleyo omnye komnye, ngoko ke asikwazi amalungiselelo ulwalamano ngokusesikweni, bathi abahlobo babo, izalamane, abahlobo. Okanye - njengoko kwakunjalo kwinkulungwane ye-19 - umfana abuze abazali ngesandla intombi babo, kunye nemvume. Oku kubhengezwe intombazana, ukuba ithe engqondweni ukufumana eziliqela umtshakazi nomyeni. Apha nto kuthetha ntoni ukuba 'benza "kwi inkcubeko kunye nezithethe zabantu Russian. Engagement endaweni ngaphakathi entsatsheni emxinwa, kodwa ajike abe enkulu, iholide bonwabile. Le ndoda, ukususela ngoku uthathwa ngokusesikweni njengomyeni elizayo, ukufumana ukufikelela kunxibelelwano free nomnyulwa bakhe. Wayengenako ngokukhululekileyo ukuhamba naye ngumoya, ukuba ahambe yemidlalo yeqonga.

Ukuze "entengo" mfo ubufanasini ring ozithandayo kunye ezithile ingqalutye-khubalo. Yena otdarivalas impendulo, kwaye ukutshintshiselana lwawo omabini ezaziza kubonisa abanye ngeemvakalelo zabo. Emva kwalo mkhosi abantu onokuthenjwa ngakumbi omnye komnye yaye esithintelweyo ngakumbi waziphatha kunye kwindawo eqhelekileyo. Ngapha koko, yintoni ithetha ukwenza? Oku kuthetha ukuba ngoku nenekazi ayifanele ukuba melwe adlale nezinye manenekazi, ukuba bahlale imini yonke kwi iintombi. Kwaye ke umyeni, endaweni yokubonelela ezizodwa uthanda bangaphandle umdak kufuneka uchithe ixesha elingakumbi kutshata nayo.

Kakade ke, ngoku lixesha lokutshintsha enkulu, isimilo baba nenkululeko, kunye nabantu - ephucukile. Yaye kusoloko amaqabane elizayo phambi komtshato banethuba kufuphi, yaye hayi zonke sibini, zasemzini njengoko kuvakala unakho, ifuna ukubambelela ukunyaniseka efanayo. Kanti ke, nje indoda nomfazi ozibandakanye (oko kuthetha - oke), ngoko ke ziyancedana, babona omnye umhlobo, umoya nakwelokuzalwa, neqabane ngokwesondo, umntu omthandayo, omnye umzali isakhono sabantwana babo. Hi ndlela leyi, kwi-West phantse izibini angàtshati kwakusithiwa indoda nomfazi!

Izivumelwano kunye nezivumelwano

Kuthethathethwano ngokubanzi kuxoxwa ngayo bokuqonda nini yaye phi ukuqhuba emsithweni, ukuba iindwendwe ezininzi ukubiza, yintoni izipho ukwabelana, apho ukuhlala abatsha, kunye nabanye abaninzi. Okunye kangangenkulungwane enesiqingatha eyadlulayo ngexesha zoqoqo kuxoxwa ngaye ukukhetha abazali posazhonnymi, ubukhulu ikhazi phezu kwam, ikhazi, nalapho umyeni wakhe uza kufumana.

Oko kuthetha ukwenza, babezizwa kungekudala kakhulu, ngenxa yokuba Myeke engasekho ukuba 'isiqhazolo "okanye intombi esibi-togethers, kodwa kwanyanzeleka ukuba ahlale iintsuku inaliti da iringi yokudlala. Umtshakazi kwafuneka ukuba ubonelelo isityhwentywe semali iimpahla, iitawuli, amalaphu, iingubo zokulala kunye nezinye izinto, benze zonke kwakufuneka ukuba inkoliso ngesandla ngayo. Noko ke, okwangoku abo batshatayo umsebenzi kungekho lula. Nokuba ngoncedo lwemali izalamane kwi lomtshato wabo, iilokhwe, njl kufuneka benze ngokwabo. Kakade ke, ukuba abathanga oonyana labantu. Kunye nokuzibandakanya mihla yaye yaxoxa iinkcukacha imvumelwano somtshato, ukuba ikhona, uza ukugqiba. Kodwa ke inkoliso yabantu kule mini nemihlali ngokuzalwa lentsapho entsha.

linda ngexesha

Kanti ke, njani na uyazi yena ukuba ubandakanye okanye akunjalo? elula kakhulu; ewe, ukuba wenza isithembiso. Hayi, ukuba ilizwi magic yena akazange bendingayivanga, nangona ubomi kunye nesithandwa sakhe neenyanga ezintandathu, unyaka okanye emibini. Noko ke, entengo akusoloko aluthethi kumhla lobudlelwane. Ngokuqhelekileyo phakathi ukuzibandakanya kunye yomtshato kufuneka ibe lixesha kubantu abatsha ukuseka ngokwabo iimvakalelo zabo okanye nokuhlaziya kubo. Akukho nto, emva kokuba kungeniswe isicelo beze emsithweni ofisi lobhaliso kufuneka ngenyanga nje enye. Ngokubanzi, abantu abaselula banako khangela omnye ixesha elide, iminyaka. Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezinjalo, uthando esongela ukuba idlulele ekubeni kwabahlobo, ubambiswano, okanye anyibilike ngokupheleleyo.

Nantso isiko umdla kangaka yokubandakanyeka yonke into enxulumene nayo!