Indlela ukukholisa mfo nokwakha ubuhlobo obuhlala njalo naye

Mhlawumbi oku kubangelwa yinto engenakwenzeka kuzo zonke ntombazana: ukuba athande mfo ezintle, okrelekrele kunye nenkathalo. Ngaba ucinga ukuba kunzima? Akukho mfuneko lithemba kwangaphambili, yonke into isezandleni zakho. Okuninzi ukuzithemba kunye nethemba, ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo uya kwenza oko. Ukuze ushukumise Man, kufuneka nje ukuba ukusebenzisa loo maqhinga ekunene. Makhe kwakhe umphefumlo lenkampani, yena enkulu uburharha, mhlawumbi woyisa Everest. Okanye mhlawumbi nguye usemncinane onjalo wenza izinto zesayensi ekhwankqisayo yaye ilungiselela ukuba abe kaNobel iimbasa ezidumileyo. Wonke ntombazana umntu wayo ofanelekileyo ngendlela yakhe. Kodwa xa ujonge ukuba ukruqukile nabangakwazi ucinge: "Akwaba nje onjalo amahle bafundiswe ukuze aphumelele intliziyo yakhe."

nto yonke embi, ufuna kuphela ukwazi ukuba ukuyikholisa a guy. Akukho mfuneko yokuba ube smart ungumzekelo ukuba akubize, uze ngomhla a guy uyathandeka, okanye ukuba abe ngumgqatswa of Sciences, ukuze uqhelane kunye academician elizayo. Kufuneka self-ukuzithemba, uphulaphule icebiso a ngengqondo. tricks amabhinqa aselula aliqela kwaye yakho guy ogqibeleleyo ithanda kuwe. Ukuba awuyazi ukuba nomdla indlela iNdoda, oko kukuthi smart kunjalo, ukuze ekugqibeleni kungekudala uza kufumana i-Nobel Prize, akunamsebenzi. Hayi esimbaxa, inkampani ngenkalipho uthathe inxaxheba kwiingxoxo kunye neengxoxo, kwakunye ekhawuntaleni-umbuzo ngebhaqo ndikubeke ekupheleni ofileyo, ukunika nceda u eyayifunde uxoxe ngumba ezintsonkothileyo kwintlanganiso lobuqu. guys Smart sinikele ingqalelo ubuchule ofundileyo amantombazana kunye incasa ubuthathaka, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba akuyomfuneko ukuba ube ophumelele Oxford, okanye, kwiimeko ezigabadeleyo, MGIMO.

Nokuba awunayo imfundo ephakamileyo, akukho mfuneko evela nezakhiwo. Wena bazithembe kwaye bazi ukuba ukukholisa indlela guy ngubani na ilungele yakho. Kungenzeka, kufuneka nje neqabane, ukugcina nje incoko kunye namabinzana: "Ndicinga njalo kakhulu," "Mna, kakhulu, beza engqondweni ezo ngcinga," okanye "Wena Ngokuqinisekileyo ekunene"!. Apha eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukwazi ukumamela kwaye ugcine incoko. mhlawumbi interlocutor wakho Akuyomfuneko amazwi engavakaliyo, ngokwaneleyo ukuba ezibini megaintellekta. Ukuba wenza oku ngenyameko yaye baqonde oko, ngoko ke, abayi kusibekela ntliziyo; yintoni na imfundo yakho.

Xa udibana a guy elinomtsalane kwaye isoloko kwiziko ingqalelo, ngaba ucinga, buvela kuye, ngokudlulisela bonke abalandeli. Musa ukuyikhangela amantombazana bayancwina phezu kwayo, ndicinga ukuba yokukholisa a guy of amaphupha akho. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubuntu enjalo ediniwe kakhulu ukusuka ingqalelo, kubaluleke kakhulu ngaphezu cwaka, intuthuzelo noxolo. Lo mfo lowo awufuni intombazana enye edumileyo. Yiba yoqobo kunye kancinane twisisaka, eyahlukileyo kwabanye. Bonisa inceba yakho, iNtloko incoko naye phezu izihloko umdla kuye, kodwa zama ukuba kuthethe wena kuphela incoko ngokwam, kuhle ukubuza imibuzo. Kuyenza ukuze umdla kuwe kwaye ukhululekile yaye uya siyibulela.

Wonke umntu ubhatala ingqalelo wavele ngomzimba kunye kwabazinwele ngamehlo aluhlaza. Indlela ukukholisa mfo ojonga ngathi 'usisi'? Okokuqala, Drop wathi: "Kutheni na umfuziselo fashion" kwaye ucinge ukuba uya njani entle sibheke ndawonye ezimbini Centerfolds bebambene ngezandla. Zengqondo bayazi ukuba abantu abaninzi zintle ngokubanzi ayikho ngenzondelelo malunga imbonakalo yazo, ukuba wadala ezintsonkothileyo, ukuba ziyaziswa kuphela ngembonakalo, kodwa hayi ubuhle bayo lokwenene. Musa ukumbonisa ukuba ndicinga ukuba yinzwana, ngoko nangoko uya angathanda intombazana, apho imbonakalo yayo ayibalulekanga. Uya kufuna ukwazi ngcono intombazana. Enoba ukhetho lwakho kwabonakala engavumelekanga, unako akandifanele nguye kuphela xa kukholwa wena, ngenxa yokuba bonke abantu zentliziyo imfuneko enkulu yokuqonda kunye nothando.